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Anonymous asked: Hey! Just seen the grow an ass post. Squats lift the booty, but you cannot grow a booty unless you eat a calorie surplus and lift heavy. Things like deadlifting, weighed squats/lunges, very important to build the actual muscle by lifting heavy weights. :) you will /not/ get bulky, but more streamlined and toned! Happy trails.



Hi! Thanks for your input! I have been trying to squat “heavy” about 3 times a week. I have been doing squats and deadlifts with 25 LB dumbbells and a few other Jen Selter recommended exercises haha!! I see a tiny difference and although I know it takes time, I am impatient.

In terms of eating, I definitely have to get more protein in as I doubt that I’m eating surplus calories to make muscle gains. The other challenge is that I’m not one to naturally gain weight in my butt or thighs. I fear the excess calories will go to my stomach.

Any advice for better distribution of gaining weight? I think it’s impossible 😔

Hey, I honestly think you should pursue genuine weight lifting if this is the case. 25lb is nothing, not to diminish your achievement, but if you wanted to I bet you could do 75lb.

Until recently I was doing a weight lifting program and able to squat my body weight and DL more than that. I definitely built a hell of an ass and thighs, but to build you will definitely need to eat extra, especially extra protein.

If you’re naturally thin and don’t build muscle easily, look for a “bulking” program such as Phase 1 of Jamie Eason’ Live Fit program. These are meant to help build more mass, which for many people will mean fat + muscle but not if you’re naturally thin. If you put on fat and muscle in equal proportion try Phase 2. (Phase 3 is to tone up when you already built loads of muscle).

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Hey new followers!

I haven’t posted live in absolute ages. At least two months about? And my very stocked queue has run out, about 3 days ago. I’m still lurking but not really posting because I have no idea what I would talk about. Currently my life consists of friends, grad school, and the boy (Rugby).

I’m on the fence about Business Pot, I’m sure we could set up a date any time I asked I just don’t know how I feel about it anymore. It’s such a weird circumstance. Oddly enough, Rugby’s brother has a similar opportunity from his gay SD and is taking it, but I somehow feel like that’s more legit cause they knew each other from work already?

Anyway I’m just settling into being a taken woman and enjoying my life, work, and relationship. And of course, I’m enjoying your blogs! Even if I’m not doing much, I’m still reading every now and then :-)

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There are 2 types of people who hate successful women.


A women who will never be one. A man who can’t afford one.

I would add to this that it’s not just success financially but personally- a woman who will never be one; a man who can’t match one. 

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